Fax: (212) 579-9141 Barry Berkman graduated from Harvard College in 1962, and from Stanford University School of Law in 1965. He was admitted to the New York bar in 1966, and to the U.S. District Courts for the Southern and Eastern Districts of New York in 1968. He is on the Matrimonial Committee of the Bar Association of the City of New York, a member of the Family Law Section of the ABA, and a member of the Standards of Practice on Divorce Mediation Task Force. This site is currently under construction. Check back to this site soon to see interesting and helpful information concerning divorce mediation, commonly asked questions, and myths about the divorce mediation process. The Step-Parent Connection< Divorce, Self-Esteem, and Sexual Abuse Videos. Robin Bowen, M.S.< Divorce Centers Of California Restricting Divorce Hurts Children and Women< Xerox Lexical Technology >The Divorce Page Index of skid18 Quantum Institute for Divorce Planning Divorce Medation Training Workshops DA* DI* Dads Against the Divorce Industry< >divorce< Divorce victory WS47 an phoblacht/ republican news< GH6601 Focus on Families: Divorce and Adults< da* di's essential father page< beatdead dads< california$ 88 divorce page Divorce and our Legal System Don't Get Married! divorce parenting plan< marital settlement agreement< child custody< child support $ 88 agreed or default divorce< >agreed divorce< joint custody< joint custody Carltons- Pensions and Divorce< Women in Islam Vs Judaeo-Christian tradition: The Myth... DIVORCE: A Practical Guide<DIVORCE VIDEO14- 2804- Termination of marriage; effect; revocation of probate and Divorce Scary thought: How much trouble or pain was there if divorce is better? TEXAS$ 88 DIVORCE PAGE- CUSTODY Divorce The Divorce Book
Matthew McKay, Peter D. Rogers, Joan Blades, and Richard Gosse This new book is the ideal guide for anyone who is going through a divorce or separation, or for professionals who regularly counsel divorcing people. It is written in simple, clear language by two psychologists, a lawyer, and an educator. They present in a practical and compassionate way the latest research findings on all aspects of divorce. If you are experiencing a separation or divorce, this book will tell you what to expect, answer the difficult questions, and serve as a survival guide. If you work with divorcing people this book will become your sourcebook for the latest findings on conflict resolution, the effects of divorce on children, modern coparenting agreements, and divorce mediation. Subjects Divorce--Law and legislation--United States Divorce--United States Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication data 6 x 9, 264 pages, 1984, ISBN 0-934986-06-1 (paper), DIV $11.95, 6 x 9, 264 pages, 1984, ISBN 0-934986-11-8 (cloth), DVCL $24.95WOMEN IN ISLAM VERSUS WOMEN IN THE JUDAEO-CHRISTIAN Cybershrink Re Rebound Relationships During Divorce
People need to take time to grieve and not rush into a new relationship. I was in a divorce support group for two years. Ann Christine A. Owens wrote: > > > I'd say one of the best ways to get over the pain of a > > breaking/broken relationship is to be in the throes of a newer relationship. > > > Check out who seems to be the ones faring well during a divorce -- is it > > the loney person trying to tough it out on their own -- or the one who > > has the support of a new significant other? Complicating one life with a > new relationship when the previous one has not been resolved is hardly smart; and, as > I stated above, not really very ethical. > > Personally, I think people who get their life together before embarking on a new romance > are demonstrating a better level of maturity.Divorce Effect on a Man Re: Maybe there IS truth to Re: Maybe there IS truth to Divorce hard on men too
Read this interesting article, Divorce, Man's Point of View Available for free downloading at: http://www.netrunner.net/~ruhig -- To send accents and symbols, you may use an ISO (LATIN1) converter. Turn off the STRIP EIGHTH BIT function in your modem or turn the EXTENDED ASCII option on. Re DIVORCE chez DeltaGraphX divorce your movie wife Re Rebound Relationships During Divorce Rebound Relationships During Divorce That 50 Divorce rate myth was Re Something to think about FS Stripminers-Divorce Yourself Re Welfare Even if there was an end to "No Fault" divorce, you could still get a >divorce if you could convince a judge there was a good reason. The current state of the law in most states is that a marriage may be dissolved if it has irretrievably broken down. That is the essence of a no-fault divorce, i.e., that the fault of the parties is not determined. In the fault divorce system that existed at common law, there was generally a doctrine called recrimination. Basically, if the spouse alleged to be at fault did not want the divorce, it could be contested by showing that the other spouse was also at fault. This grew out of the fact that family law derived from equity practice, and the equity courts enforced a "clean hands" doctrine generally.Re Welfare He is posing as Ken > > > > 1995 Families with children under 18 years of age > > > > Married Female > > Couple Householder > > 6.5 37.7 All races > > 5.9 32.1 White > > 8.6 48.6 Black > > > > Note how marriage is a MUCH bigger factor than race when it comes to > > poverty. > It is the lack of an opportunity cost to having children (lack losing a > job) that leads to greater illegitimacy among the poor. Also, if lack of opportunity leads to illegitimacy, then we should have had less illegitimacy as opportunity for women increased since the early 1960s. Instead, the trend has been the exact opposite. > > > > Some policies that have been proposed: > > > > An end to the no-fault divorce for couples with children. - It is not clear that a divorced family is a better environment for children Children are much more likely to be abused by stepfathers and boyfriends. > > Except that job training leads to a job which sharply increases the > opportunity cost of having children and will lead to a sharp decline in > illegitimacy. Re Welfare Some policies that have been proposed: >>> An end to the no-fault divorce for couples with children. Too many women end up with nothing, thanks to no-fault. No fault divorce and distribution of property are two different issues. No fault primarily determines whether there will be a divorce or whether two people who can't stand each other will be forced to an informal separation without the supervision of the court. Re Welfare Note how marriage is a MUCH bigger factor than race when it comes to >> poverty. > >There hasn't been much mention of race in this discussion of poverty, as >I recall. > >> Divorce and out-of-wedlock birth are the main causes of poverty in America. How do you know that poverty isn't the main cause of divorce and >out-of-wedlock births? Well, I won't address divorce, but I know that many women and families never thought of welfare before they got pregnant. I would have to say that it seems more likely to me that out-of- wedlock births lead people into welfare, though I don't dispute that poverty may well lead to out-of-wedlock births. Re Welfare There hasn't been much mention of race in this discussion of poverty, as I recall. > Divorce and out-of-wedlock birth are the main causes of poverty in America. How do you know that poverty isn't the main cause of divorce and out-of-wedlock births? > > Some policies that have been proposed: > > An end to the no-fault divorce for couples with children. Back in 1960, before no-fault divorce and all, poverty was 50 percent higher than it is today. Re Single mothers Many people, both >men >and women, seem to become quite different people after the wedding than >they >were before the wedding. > I do not however support "no-fault" divorce for couples with >childern. I >believe that, once a man and a woman have (freely) accepted the >responsibility >and obligations than goes with having childern, that the so called "best >interests of the child" over-ride the rights of the father and mother to >"No-Fault" divorce. There should >certainly >be grounds for divorce, abuse, desertion, substance abuse etc, but not >NO-FAULT, >not when there are childern. Re Single mothers Do you not see a difference between those events which are outside of our :>control and those which we can control? Having a spouse die from a car :>crash or heart attack is a damn sight different than making a conscious :>decision to have a child and have the state support it. I wouldn't guarentee :you a welfare check every week, I'd guarentee you a job, with a pay :check every week ! I : believe that, once a man and a woman have (freely) accepted the : responsibility and obligations than goes with having childern, that the : so called "best interests of the child" over-ride the rights of the : father and mother to "No-Fault" divorce. There should certainly be grounds for divorce, : abuse, desertion, substance abuse etc, but not NO-FAULT, : not when there are childern. Do you think that people with children decide to divorce because they have nuthin' better ta do on a Sun. Re: Single mothers Re Single mothers That doesn't even consider separations which don't lead to >> >divorce (some sources state estimates as high as 10% of marriages ending >> >in separation without divorce). The fact that >> divorce rates are so high has a lot to do with the idea that obligations >> are old-fashioned, that if I don't feel good today that something must be >> wrong and that it's probably someone else's fault, the me-generation >> philosophy that says it's OK to pursue whatever I want at the expense of >> everybody around me, and that the concept of shame has largely fallen out >> of our society. Divorce and separation >rates were supressed before "no-fault" divorce and womenn's acceptance >in >the work force during WW II simply because divorce was considered >socially >unacceptable, not because marriage worked any better than it does now. For example, if >you get >married to have and raise childern and agree that once the childern are >grown you will re-evaluate the situation, a divorce after say 25 years >may >not signify a failed marriage since the objectives, to have and raise >childern, >may very well have been fulfilled. There are several things that generally get ignored in marriages: 1) Both parties are obliged to bring their best selves into the marriage, 2) Problems will occur and do require work to resolve like any other partnership, 3) When children are brought into the equation the obligations are greatly increased. Suspension bridges are not used >everywhere, >in fact only about 20% of all bridges are suspension types. http://www.globaltrak.net/gtplacer?location=hitlist&site=dejanews&search_words=%22no-fault%20divorce%22&click_id=850917028.16379 Deja News Retrieved Document
Subject: Re: Mom's Backdoor alimoney: WAS Re: No-fault divorce: An issue of values From: vickicz@ix.netcom.com (Czulie) Date: 1996/10/29 Message-Id: 553pnf$br1@sjx-ixn10.ix.netcom.com> Article Segment 2 of 2 (Get Previous Segment) (Get All 2 Segments) consent," exactly, either, although now I understand | that since my consent was given only under threat, not | in a no-fault divorce* been no no-fault divorce, I wouldn't have been able to | divorce him with a no-fault divorce" in response to Deja News Retrieved Document Religious Political Extremists in GOP To Attack No Fault Divorce Religious political extremists in the GOP have not discussed their latest stealth campaign to invade America's bedrooms, but AFTER the November elections they will be pushing for new laws to end no fault divorce laws. Obsessed with telling Americans that they must follow their beliefs about sex, marriage and family Republicans will be pressing for new laws in Michigan, Washington State, Iowa, Colorado and West Virginia. ``Our divorce laws should not make it easy to walk away from personal responsibility and parental obligation,'' Republican Michigan State Rep. ``Why do we have state laws that favor divorce over marriage? The Michigan proposal would revive, in contested divorce cases, the old requirement that one spouse show the other was ``at fault'' - such as being unfaithful, abusive, a drug user or someone who deserts the marriage. Jeff Kemp, son of GOP vice-presidential would be, Jack Kemp, heads the local Focus On The Family affiliate, The Washington Family Council which will be the one of the primary forces lobbying for the legislation along with the usual religious political extremists, Reps.De Deja News Retrieved Document
Subject: Re: "the Rules"/what do you think? I have met a woman who followed "The Rules" - one of my stepmothers, who was married to my dad for 12 years. Poor guy, fell for the manipulation hook, line & sinker, even though the rest of the family saw right through her. Her true colors showed when she decided she didn't want to be married to him anymore, and in the land of no-fault divorce, divorced him without his consent (he didn't want to divorce her, he wanted to work it out), and then promptly sued him for half of everything, even though she had several millions in inheritance (which isn't community property). So, IMHO, I think women who follow "The Rules" are not the kind of people I would want to associate with, and certainly would not want my friends or family to marry. Dad's getting married for the fourth time next month to an absolutely charming, honest and REAL woman. The People's Interne# 1/ 2 Deja News Retrieved Document -- Matt Pritchard (matthewp@netcom.com) wrote: : Here at Ensemble Studios, not a single child of anyone who works here is : in daycare. When children are involved, quality time is not : having them raised by someone else. A full-time live-in nanny is not remotely like daycare. :-) : Our views may be shaped in part by the fact the oldest among us are in : our early 30's. Certainly a rejection of the Baby Boomers value system : of divorced homes and kids who bond with daycare workers. Yes, but not all people are happy at being full-time parents and an unhappy parent is not likely to have quality relationships with anyone, spouse or children. They are committed to YOUR children and no one else's, they like their jobs or they wouldn't be doing it, and you can instruct them on exactly how to handle your children while you're at work. Deja News Post Newsgroup Articles Deja News Retrieved Document I have found that the pain of being single is far far less than the >pain of watching the love of your life gouge your heart out with a >butter knife and do a victory dance around it. I guess so. It took a hacksaw to get mine! All rights reserved.Deja News Retrieved Document Re: UPDATE: Utah divorce rate. Yes it is high than national average. Peter Walsh